Personal Etiquettes

Etiquettes to be followed to build up your personality:

Always dress to suit your figure, face and personality.
Dress simply, unless it is a party.
Be distinct and attractive, without being garish or flamboyant.
Avoid dressing skimpily, or in offensively revealing or tight clothes.
While children can wear bright clothes, those above forty years look graceful in sober clothes with muted colours.
While leather belts with big brass buckles look good on youngsters, older people should have smaller buckles on their belts.
Do make sure that your shoes are well polished, and are comfortable to wear.
Ladies who wear high-heeled shoes or slippers should feel confident and comfortable enough to wear them.
Make sure that your socks and handkerchief are spotlessly clean.
Ladies handbags, be they leather or denim or jute, should be spacious enough to hold everything that is required, without overstuffing them.
For formal wear, ties and suit are suggested. In informal wear, you can even wear a t-shirt, and slip-on shoes.
Perfume should be dabbed on with caution. Do not drench yourself in it.

DEMEANOUR AND POISE STEER THE COURSE OF OUR LIFESTYLE

A good posture denotes your good upbringing.
An upright, straight and graceful figure shows character.
When you sit down in a chair, do it gracefully, without plonking yourself down.
As you sit, ensure that your hands are on your lap, or on the armrests.
Keep your legs together, and if you do cross one leg over the other, make sure that you do not shake your leg.
While standing, stand tall and erect, and do not slouch.
To be at ease, you can stand with your feet a little apart and your hands clasped behind you.
Do not stand with hands on your hips which show aggression.
While you are conversing, do not let your attention wander, unless you are the host who is welcoming others too.
See that your child sits with a straight back, stands with ease, and walks with a head held high, to ensure a good posture, and a confident demeanour.
If you are an impatient person, hide it tactfully, by avoiding pacing up and down, glancing at your watch every few seconds, biting your nails, etc.
Avoid making wild and unnecessary gestures.
While walking with a woman, walk on the outer side as a protective shield.
Your personality, taste and fine sense of aesthetics set you apart from the crowd.
The way you conduct yourself at public places shows your upbringing.
Always remember that you are known by the company you keep.
A charming manner evokes a positive response from others, endearing them to you.
The qualities of a charming person are poise, elegance, grace and a pleasing manner.
To have class, you need to have modesty, honesty, good manners, politeness, sincerity towards relationships, and humanitarian considerations for fellow beings.
Always keep your anger under control; otherwise all your virtues will be overshadowed by it and you will be branded as an unpleasant person.

RELATIONS WITH ADULTS

Convince your children, who are afflicted with shyness to some degree, that everybody, regardless of age, is shy, to a certain extent, around new people or unfamiliar surroundings.
Children should be persuaded to stop worrying about themselves and focus on other people.
When children meet someone new, they should stand up.
They can either shake hands with the person or join both hands together and wish him 'namaste', they can even say 'hello' and smile.
Young people should be made aware of the fact that people like to talk about themselves, and so, during conversations, they should listen patiently.
People do not mind being asked questions, as long as they are not too personal or downright rude.
Teach your children to be observant, so that they become aware of the other person's interest like noticing a guitar, a tennis racquet, crayons, etc., and ask relevant questions to set the conversation going.
They should try not to interrupt, but rather listen carefully, unless something urgent turns up, in which case, they should say, "Excuse me."
When a child is offered a gift which is not to his liking, instead of grimacing or showing his displeasure, he should accept it graciously and thank the person warmly.
Teach your child to ask for assistance in a shop, rather than trying to attract the shopkeeper's attention by coughing, or clapping his hands, or drumming on the table, etc.
Your child should greet elders with deference, and address them properly with respect, like Uncle, Aunty, Mr, Mrs, Dr, Captain, Grandma or Grandpa, etc.
When the child introduces his teacher to his parents, the teachers name is mentioned first.
While introducing someone to your parents, it helps to provide a little information about that person.
When introducing dignitaries, they are mentioned first, as a respect for the offices they hold.